Bette Midler’s Secret to a 40-Year Marriage: Separate Bedrooms
Bette Midler, 78, has revealed the surprising secret to her nearly four-decade-long marriage to husband Martin von Haselberg: separate bedrooms. In a recent interview, Midler attributed their enduring union to this unconventional arrangement, which she believes has helped them maintain their individuality and independence.
“My husband snores,” Midler quipped, explaining the practical reason behind their decision. The couple, who tied the knot in 1984 after a whirlwind romance, has learned to appreciate the value of personal space in their relationship.
In addition to her marriage, Midler also gushed about working with her daughter, Sophie von Haselberg, who stars alongside her in the upcoming comedy, The Fabulous Four. Midler initially discouraged Sophie from pursuing an acting career, fearing the challenges and uncertainties of the industry. However, she eventually came to realize her daughter’s talent and passion for the craft.
“I was more than averse [to let her go into acting],” Midler recalled. “I was frightened for her, and she was just a little girl. I made a terrible mistake by saying, ‘If you go into show business, I’ll kill you.’ And she took it very much to heart. She’s brilliant. She’s great. She’s the love of my life.”
Midler also reflected on her impulsive nature, which led her to marry von Haselberg, 75, in a Las Vegas ceremony officiated by an Elvis impersonator. “I am very impulsive,” she said, looking back on their whirlwind romance.
In an earlier interview, Midler shared what drew her to von Haselberg when they first met in 1984. “I knew immediately that Martin was outrageous when I first met him,” she said. “I liked the fact that he was not afraid to be different, that he was an outsider like I am, that he was not complacent, that he stood aside from the mainstream.”
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Midler’s advice for a long-lasting union includes picking one’s fights wisely, staying calm, and avoiding blame. “Don’t diminish each other. Don’t make each other less. Don’t try to make each other wrong all the time. Don’t blame. Stop assigning blame,” she emphasized.
The Fabulous Four hits theaters on Friday, July 26.
